I must say.. people have gotten less enthusiastic about "invites" these days. Not saying I'm not one of them. I admit it.. I've been prone to be " breezy" as they say. And I must admit, I'm tired of it.
People in this day and age always reply.." tentative" to anything you invite them too. As to say... " well if something better with other people that I enjoy more have something going on, I may not make it". Ugghh.. it's rude and it's gross. If you want to go, then go. If you can't go, then say, sorry already have plans, or can't go. If you are iffy, then just say.. NO THANKS, sorry. It's not that hard people. And the ones that wait for their "partners" response.. when THEY were not the ones invited in the first place... gag.
This aggravation comes out to play due to me having my 30th birthday party this weekend. Yes, I'm turning 30 and feel like I just barely got my sh*t together. Anyhow.... the party invite.. I mean... don't give me excuses on why you can't go.. or then later explain... oh sorry i just got this email.. i mean.. people cannot commit to one thing anymore. It annoys the living you know what out of me. When I'm invited to things now, I reply instantly.. check the calendar, check with my mate if he "would like to join", and then give my response. Now, if at a later date something else comes up, I have to say to the other person, " I'm sorry, but I have already committed to another invite". People understand this. It's not that hard.
But with today's technology, people feel that they can be "tentative" to all things, and then just " call, or text" the party thrower at the time of the party and see "how the party is going", and then say... " oh ok, I'll be there shortly". Three hours later they may show.
I guess when you live in an area where you have not grown up with the friends that you have made, they don't feel as obligated, or find it THAT necessary to join your festivities. This is what makes people so irritating to me. Just because I have not known you since high school, should not determine how much of a "friend" I am to you.
I love making new friends, I use to be fabulous at it. But with age comes wisdom, and well, hardship. After so many failed relationships, and "bad" friends, and what have you.. you start to become hard, and not want to let people in. This is new to me, and I'm finding it very evil. You become more blunt, more honest, and more annoyed with it. Because not everyone handles friendships the same way.
I guess what I'm trying to say, is choose wisely. Party's and People. That way.. you're sure to never miss a good party. And treat all friendships as if they are equal. And parties for that matter.
